How to Reclaim Your Energy After Years of People-Pleasing

You’ve always been the strong one.
The dependable one.
The “yes” woman.
You’ve learned to read the room, meet everyone’s needs, keep the peace—even when it costs you your own.

And now?
You’re exhausted.
Physically. Emotionally. Energetically.
Your body is whispering what your soul has known for a while:
You can’t live like this anymore.

What People-Pleasing Really Is

Let’s call it what it is:
People-pleasing is self-abandonment dressed as kindness.
It’s putting your needs at the bottom of the list (if they make the list at all).
It’s saying “yes” when your body is screaming “no.”
It’s over-giving to prove your worth and keep others comfortable.

But here's the truth:
You don’t owe anyone a version of you that costs you your peace.

The Cost of Being “Nice” All the Time

You might think you’re being kind, helpful, or selfless—but what you’re really doing is leaking your energy in every direction but inward.
Here’s what it looks like:

• Chronic exhaustion

• Resentment bubbling beneath the surface

• A foggy mind and disconnected body

• Constantly feeling behind or unfulfilled

• Secretly wondering, When is it my turn?

5 Steps to Reclaim Your Energy & Stop Abandoning Yourself

1. Get Honest About Where You’re Overgiving

Start by noticing your patterns. Where are you saying yes to avoid guilt, conflict, or rejection?
Awareness is the first sacred shift.

2. Feel the Discomfort of Disappointing Others

You cannot heal your life and manage everyone’s emotions at the same time.
Let the discomfort rise—and then let it pass. Your peace is worth it.

3. Start Small With Boundaries That Protect Your Energy

Boundaries don’t need to be dramatic. Start with small “no’s.” Build the muscle.
You’re not being selfish—you’re being sovereign.

4. Stop Explaining Yourself

You don’t owe anyone a 10-minute TED Talk about why you can’t show up today.
“No” is a full sentence. And it’s holy.

5. Choose Yourself Without Guilt

Every time you choose yourself, you’re breaking the cycle.
You’re teaching your nervous system: I am safe to rest. I am safe to take up space. I am safe to belong to myself.

Your Energy Is Sacred—and It’s Time You Treated It That Way

This isn’t about becoming cold or detached.
It’s about becoming whole again.
It’s about returning to the woman you were before you learned you had to earn love by overextending yourself.

You don’t have to keep draining yourself to be liked, needed, or approved of.
You don’t have to prove your worth through self-sacrifice.

You’re allowed to rest.
You’re allowed to say no.
You’re allowed to choose you.

Awaken & Rise: The Transformation Starts With You

If this message speaks to your soul, know this:
You’re not alone. And you don’t have to navigate this by yourself anymore.

Inside Awaken & Rise: The Transformation, we reclaim energy.
We break old patterns.
We stop apologizing for our truth.
And we rebuild the relationship with the woman who’s been buried beneath everyone else’s expectations.

Doors open June 4. Only 20 women will be accepted.
Because depth requires intimacy. And I’m walking with you the whole way.

Secure you spot below! 

This is your time.
Let’s rise.